Why is it easier writing about sex anonymously?
Why did Nikki Gemmell (of Bride Stripped Bare fame) publish AN ENTIRE NOVEL under an unoriginal pseudonym that's used for every obscure mythical poem ever spoken?
Why do I feel more free writing whatever the hell I want without the worry that it might get traced back to my 'true' self? Is it even relevant? Shouldn't people know everything about a writer? And besides, most people that might tumble across this blog and recognise some similar writing styles of some girl they might know, with a history of relationships that sound eerily similar to another girl they might know, well then, what's the point at all?
It's easy. It's safe. No. It's safe-er.
Why should we be ashamed/embarrassed/private about our sex lives? And when we do tell our lover/potential partner our history, it could be read as 'right' or 'wrong'. A chequered past encourages instant judgement. With guys it's seen as a conquest, an impressive attribute, he's a 'ladies man'. But when it's girls simply expressing their sexual apetite and exercising their libido, they are labelled as sluts, perhaps even 'damaged goods', and nobody wants a part of THAT pie.
Today I was asked if I'm happy being single. When I answered an honest no, my friend was shocked. 'No? Not even a little bit?' he asked. I'm not entirely happy if I feel that there's no point even looking for someone here in Melbourne. What's the point?
I've been told that I'm intimidating, I'm a smart arse, I am too edgy and too 'in-yer-face' for the demure (scared of anything different) jewish boys of melbourne. But I dont want to believe that. Actually, I want some guy to disprove this negative response I'm being reminded of. I want a guy to tell me - "no, not ALL jewish boys are wimps, they're not all too self-conscious to flirt, too thick to see the charm in the abundant gorgeous jewish girls in melbourne" - these girls are smart, they are sexy, they are cultured, they are well read, they are attractive, they are funny, they love having a great time, they have ideas about being jewish, about the world, about being connected to other ideas and other people.
But are these girls waiting? Am I waiting? I'm not sure anymore. Can someone prove our jaded bitterness of Melbourne Jewish boys wrong?
3 comments:
Hey there reluctant jap,
interesting blog re jewish boys from melbourne. except it gave me the impression that you only know a narrowly defined "type" of jewish boy and don't really understand how and where to meet others. what's limited here - these jewish boys or your social world?
but we do exist and, shock horror, we're quite well read, clever, flirtatious...probably been chasing too many non-jewish girls, on the assumption that "melbourne jewish girls" (whoever they may be) are not interesting/stimulating/lively/sexy/whatever.
these tags are mostly rubbishy stereotypes. but i hear these sentiments quite often from both jewish guys and jewish girls (usually at another house-party that's winding up at 12.30am). sometimes i think it's just a reaction against their 13year stint in the same jewish school. or the expression of frustration at the fact that their friends today are the same people as 15 years ago.
look you're probably right in hinting that most of the people you meet are dull/stupid/irritating/socially conservative/etc...but the non-yidn are the same too. good people are just as rare...only that there are far fewer jews than our gentile counterparts.
raph
Hey,
after reading some of your blogs, a question strikes me: if all the "Jew boys" are losers in Melbourne, why not just date non-Jews? if things got serious, they could convert, but otherwise, you get to have fun and know that he's not a whimp, as you refer to many Jewish Melbourne men as.
Just a thought.
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